Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Sisterlocks and Your Baby Girl: From a Young Girl's Perspective

Sisterlocks and Your Baby Girl:  From a Young Child Perspective

By:  Lauren Francis-Jackson
As adults, we make our own hair choices and rock our hair however we like!  Whether that be natural, relaxed, or somewhere in between, we exercise the option of CHOICE.  However, children do not have that same luxury because we are making choices for them.  There are many natural options for parents to consider for their child's hair including  braids, cornrows, twists, afro puffs, locs, sisterlocks, and more!  And parents hold an important role in deciding what to do in the best interest of their child. All hairstyles have their positives and negatives in terms of look, style, cost, functionality, and maintenance. 
In the world of sisterlocks, there are some more specific factors to consider outside the permanent nature of the style.  Here are some questions to consider prior to beginning the sisterlock process for your child: 
As the parent, are you able to afford the initial installation and maintenance cost?
Will your child be able to sit for the installation and/or maintenance sessions? 
Do you plan on taking the retightening class or consultant course to learn how to maintain you child's locks?
Will your child like sisterlocks as they get older?
Will you be willing to "take down" the sisterlocks if your child is no longer happy with them?
How will you teach and educate your child about her hair and maintenance when they get older?
 One challenge I can see with a young child (under the age of 6) is that they may have challenges in tolerating the long locking session and maintenance sessions.  Developmentally, I would expect them to have challenges for sitting for a really long time as needed.  For play, a young child could have an attention span of 10-15 minutes to attend to one activity.  Not much hair can be retightened in 10 to 15 minutes!  However, for the child who may have difficulty sitting, the trained parent who can retighten hair can be a lifesaver.  One benefit to the parent being skilled to retighten sisterlocks is that this can be accomplished in shorter sessions to meet the child's attention span. 
Secondly,  because a young child is just coming into their own and establishing an identity for who they are, the child may mature as they get older and decide they are no longer interested in wearing locks.  Children are easily influenced by their peers, and what may seem like "what everyone else is doing".  They are fickle and may change their mind quite frequently.  Because of the greater permanency of the sisterlocks hairstyle, a parent may want to delay the decision for sisterlocks until a child is more mature and knows the beat of her own drum.  That comes with time as well as getting older. 
Thirdly, hair maintenance can be a challenge with young girls.   They tend to fall asleep at a moment's notice, and hair care is not really a priority for a young child. As parents, help your child by talking to her about simple ways she can take a role in her hair care.  Parents should talk to their child in terms that are easy to understand.  For example, you may explain to your child about sleeping with the "shiny" pillowcase as a way to talk about satin pillowcases. 
Ultimately, as a parent the choice is up to you whether or not you lock the hair.  In my opinion because of the committment of sisterlocks-- this should be considered when your child can have a "say" in their own hair care and tolerate the lengthy maintenance and hair care needs for sisterlocks.  If you do decide to embark on the journey of sisterlocks with your daughter, enjoy the beauty of the journey!
~The Sisterlocked Diva


  1. Greetings- Today my client informed me about the picture of my youngest daughter who is featured in your post. Just to add background to the picture, she was locked at 4 and my oldest at 6 and they LOVE their Sisterlocks :-) They, along with my other kid Sisterlocked clients sit very well for their retightenings...the freedom they experience is amazing. It really takes talking to them directly to get an appreciation for the love and confidence they have for themselves and their hair. Feel free to visit my website and check out my kids blog www.LocksofBeauty.com

    BTW we meet at the Sisterlock DMV at the Casino ;-)

  2. Hello! How are you Latasha? Thank you for the feedback on your child clientel. I am glad that they can tolerate the lengthy time it may take for a retightening. I think any parent has to know their child as an individual and know what they can tolerate and can't. I will say in my experience as a speech therapist and special educator-- it is not really developmentally expected to sit for that long. It is a range of how kids can remain seated for a task such as installing sisterlocks. I would LOVE to check out your website, and more about your children. She is a cutie!

  3. Gorgeous Locks on a gorgeous child! I fell in love with sisterlocks as soon as I found out about them as I researched into transitioning to relaxed hair. 6 months after my installation, my then 5 year old told me she wanted her hair locked too. She asked as soon as she realized locked hair would mean no more combing, brushing or detangling of her thick tightly coiled hair.

    I argued with her for about 4 months. I told her it would take many hours. She insisted she could and would sit still for the installation. I told her she might get tired of it and we'd have to cut her hair. She said she didn't care, and she was sure she wouldn't EVER want to comb her hair again. I told her she would still have to sit down every so often for 2 hours or so for retightening. She reminded me that if we didnt lock it, she could have to sit down every weekend as we did for 2 hours or so for combing detangling and braiding.

    After several months of this discussion, I made her appointment, and we have never looked back! Installation was completed over 2 days even though we scheduled shorter sessions over 3 days. She has now been locked for over a year and loves her locks. I think the most important aspect of this was the fact that she wanted them so badly, she knew what to expect and was ready to do it. She looks beautiful and versatility was proven by the fact that she was able to wear her hair in a perfect bun for her ballet recital last weekend. We're Sisterlocked and loving it!